Q: Should a funeral service be left as a private event?
A: It is not usual, but of course possible. However, while you remember your loved one it is likely that others will remember as well. Death touches and affects relatives, friends and others in a variety of ways. The funeral can provide everyone with an opportunity to acknowledge and to respond to the change that death has brought about.
Experience indicates that this will not be accomplished by getting the funeral over fast, or as quietly, as possible.